Not long ago after Hubby openly expressed mild dissatisfaction at his Mom for the meals she’s been cooking, I tried to make her feel better by reminding her how picky of an eater Hubby was and saying, “Oh, he’s like that with me, too. There are so many foods he won’t eat. He will only eat, like, five different dishes.”
Totally serious, she asks me which five dishes.
I had just said five arbitrarily. I hadn’t literally meant he liked only five dishes.
Anyway, I named off a couple of dishes he liked. Beef noodle soup, eggplant in garlic sauce, egg and tomato stir-fry, seafood fried rice…..
Thereafter for a week straight, she made eggplant and egg and tomato, but the way she makes it is… shall we say… quite different from my approach to those two dishes. Neither Hubby nor I were fans of her…approach.
Last weekend she bought 10+ eggplants and made eggplant every single night for five days in a row. Hubby said something to her I guess, and told her no more eggplant. He also told her no more egg and tomato. Seriously I didn’t know it was possible to mess up egg and tomato. It’s one of those easy peasant dishes that anyone can throw together.
She’s also been making beef noodle soup ad nauseum. I don’t even know if it can be properly referred to as beef noodle soup. I have no idea what it is, maybe it’s a mainland Chinese thing, but we Taiwanese folk first stew the beef separately for an entire day until it’s fork tender, until all the fat has melted away and turned the beef into succulent bites that melt in your mouth. It’s a little spicy. There should also be carrots and onions that have since melted into the broth. The noodles have to be what we call QQ, which I suppose also means el dente. I sauté the greens separately. The broth itself for the soup is its own art form.
MIL, bless her heart, makes the beef first, which is tough and fibrous, like jerky. It goes in the fridge and stays there the whole week. How she uses the beef is slice thin strips of it off the chunk and that’s the beef for the beef noodle soup. She boils a big pot of water and in goes some of the beef juice, if there’s any, soy sauce, and chicken bouillon cubes (oh Christ…). That’s the “broth.” She boils the green veggies with the noodles. The broth isn’t even a beef broth. It’s not spicy. No carrots, no onions melted into the backdrop of the broth’s flavor profile. Everything is haphazardly slapped together. It tastes like water with chicken bouillon dissolved in it, boiled veggies, beef jerky, and noodles. So Hubby is not a fan.
Okay Saturday night after we return from Fisherman’s Wharf, she wants to make beef noodle soup.
Hubby is exhausted from a shitty day out with his parents, so he scowls. He can’t even fake it anymore.
“No, Mom! No more of that beef noodle soup! It’s not good! It’s not even beef noodle soup. You can’t throw a bunch of ingredients together in a pot, boil it, and call it beef noodle soup!”
She is visibly upset. She looks out the window and from where I’m sitting, I can’t see her face, but by the way she’s stone silent and looking out the window, gripping the car door, everyone knows she’s sobbing quietly to herself. Oh. Fuck my life.
“Well, I love beef noodle soup!” I say, which independently as a statement is not false. “Plus, it was chilly today. Going home to some piping hot noodle soup would be fantastic!” Again, by itself not a false statement.
When we’re home, Hubby is talking quietly to me, sweetly, angel face on, seeing if he might convince me to make him fried rice. I said sure. His mom overhears the whole conversation, though, and she goes, “I’ll make you fried rice! Fried rice is easy!”
Hubby scowls and says, “No, Mom, I don’t want fried rice. I can make it myself.”
“Kelter doesn’t want to cook, she’s tired,” says MIL. “She’s tired from walking all day so let her rest. Let me make fried rice for you.”
Don’t know where she got that idea from but hey, I’m not going to complain about not having to cook.
The conversation ends with Hubby saying he will boil up a bag of frozen dumplings by himself and just eat that for dinner. She then insists on boiling the water for him and he fights back and says no, he can boil his own water. The rest of the night and throughout dinner, she repeats over and over, “He doesn’t like my beef noodle soup, the beef I worked so hard on making. It’s really good beef, too. I tried it myself. The beef is great.”
Let me put it this way. Had I stewed beef and it came out like that, I would have–first of all–stewed it for longer– but secondly, would have probably crumpled into a pile on the floor very disappointed in myself for having failed at the attempt and wasted a nice chunk of beef. I would have been really, really upset at myself for being such a big fat failure had my beef come out like that, let’s just say. I might have even tossed the whole pot out and started over.
Sunday morning MIL makes seafood egg fried rice. This is after Hubby and I both told her that he and I were going to go out for brunch by ourselves on Sunday. He wakes up and there’s seafood egg fried rice ready for him.
He doesn’t eat it actually. He scowls at his Mom and says, “Mom, I specifically told you that Kelter and I are going out for lunch today. Why would you still make fried rice?”
“I made it for your Dad, too,” she says.
“And why would you do that?” Hubby asks. Because FIL hates fried rice. “Dad hates fried rice. You know that.”
Later that night when we return home, we find out FIL hasn’t eaten anything AT ALL the whole day. MIL didn’t make him any food so he simply starved the whole day, snacking on crappy processed food.
Hubby yells at his Mom. “Why didn’t you cook for Dad?!?!”
“I did,” she says. “I made him fried rice. He didn’t want it.”
MIL ended up packing the fried rice for Hubby to take to work today. Hubby, who genuinely loves fried rice, took one look at the bento box of fried rice and looked said. He sighed.
Food in this house has become a means for survival. No one is excited about food anymore, which is extra bizarre coming from us because food is my passion. Hubby said to me this morning as we left the house, “I’m not excited about dinner anymore. Before, I was always so excited, like, ooh, what are we going to have tonight. Now I’m just like blah. More onions and cabbage.”
But I sincerely feel sorry for her. I feel sorry that she’s obviously trying so hard to please her son. I don’t entirely get her intentions, but I get that she’s trying really, really hard. Every dish I make, the next day she will try making it herself. Like when I made pork belly for her friends and everyone raved about it and then the very next day, she tried making pork belly. If I make eggplant in garlic sauce, the next day she’ll make eggplant in garlic sauce. It’s painfully obvious, pathetic, and yet it makes me feel so bad for her.